She got really nervous and told me that her husband, jackass' brother, didn't want her to tell me this. I was like, go ahead, tell me PLEASE! She told me that jackass and vi (barn girl) were having an affair. Instead of bursting into tears and screaming like a banshee (this is what she expected), I said, "Do you have proof?"
She told me this convoluted story that went something like this.... her mom is in a craft circle 1/2 hour away with another lady (let's call her X), X's daughter was at a barn and overheard Vi tell the barn owner that she had been having an affair with her barn owner and mentioned jackass' name. X's daughter told her mother because she thought the last name was familiar. X asked my sil's Mom at craft circle time. Sil's mom said, "Oh that's my son in law's brother." And then it got back to me.
Sil was very upset, but I was actually relieved. Isn't that a weird reaction? This was the truth I had been looking for. I had asked jackass 3 times(over the past year) if he had been having an affair and he DENIED it every single time. I trusted him.
So, the next day, I sleuthed around while he was at work. Called people to see what they had to offer. The majority of people thought he was having an affair, but did not have exact proof. I figured that what I had was good enough. Circumstantial evidence.
I hit him over the head with it. Figuratively, not literally. I told him that the girls and I were leaving because he was having an affair with vi and if he could prove that he wasn't, then I was all ears. He said, "fine if that's what you believe. You can have whatever you want and I will provide for you" and he left the house.
I can tell you that those were the hardest words I have ever said.